If you had $86,400 and someone stole $10, would you throw $86,390 away for revenge? Or move on and live? Right?!? Move on and live. Here is the thing though, you have 86,400 seconds each day. Don’t let someone’s negative 10 seconds ruin the remaining 86,390. Life is bigger than that. And so are you.
– Unknown Author
I saw this quote once on social media and found it to be very compelling. How many of us do this? We know this isn’t good for us and yet feel we can’t stop ourselves from letting the small amount of negativity in our lives overwhelm us, as if this is the majority of our lives when it really is not.
My challenge for you…try this to start practicing Mindfulness. Help yourself stop the madness created by these old patterns of perseverating on the negative. You may have heard of Mindfulness and still be skeptical this practice can be helpful. It can though. It orients us to ourselves and our world of the present moment only. It allows space for us to let go of things we can’t control by shifting our focus to the present.
Let me demystify one of the reasons why Mindfulness works. When we pay attention to something research shows again and again that it changes our behavior. One of my favorite examples of this is from quantum physics. Get a load of this:
“In a study reported in the February 26, [1998] issue of Nature (Vol. 391, pp. 871-874), researchers at the Weizmann Institute of Science…conducted a highly controlled experiment demonstrating how a beam of electrons is affected by the act of being observed. The experiment revealed that the greater the amount of “watching,” the greater the observer’s influence on what actually takes place.”
https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/1998/02/980227055013.htm
What does this mean? It means at the smallest subatomic levels of the energy that makes up what EVERYTHING is made of (such as the electrons focused on in this study), there is research showing us that the act of observing can indeed cause change AND the more we observe the more influence we have. Isn’t that amazing? Just the act of noticing something influences it…changes it.
So here are 3 steps I have for you to try and change the pattern of giving up so much of your time to the negative thoughts in your life:
Think you can do this over the course of the week? I hope you try. I promise that a practice this small can make big ripples of change in your life. Take five minutes once a day and give yourself the gift of seeing your thoughts as separate from you. You are the observer of the thoughts. You are not the thoughts themselves. See if the act of observing is as powerful as they say it can be on a subatomic energetic level. It may surprise you.
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