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The Exhausting Lie that Perfectionism Sold You

Summary:

This episode explores the impact of perfectionism, societal conditioning, and hormonal changes during midlife on women’s mental health. Dr. Natalie shares data, personal insights, and practical advice to help women love themselves and navigate this transformative phase with resilience.

Keywords:

midlife, women, perfectionism, mental health, hormonal changes, self-love, resilience, menopause, societal conditioning

Key topics:

• Perfectionism and its impact on mental health
• The connection between hormonal changes and emotional well-being
• Societal conditioning and self-betrayal in women
• Practical steps to cultivate self-love and resilience

Sound bites:

• “Relearn who you are and what you want.”
• “Deserving love even when you screw up.”
• “You do not have to be good.”

Chapters:

• 00:00 The Burden of Perfectionism in Midlife
• 03:24 Understanding the Mental Health Crisis for Women
• 11:29 The Impact of Hormonal Changes and Medical Misunderstandings
• 28:13 Reclaiming Self-Worth and Breaking Free from Perfectionism
• 36:18 Introduction and Disclaimer
• 37:55 Crisis Resources and Support

Resources & Links to Connect with Dr. Natalie:

• Learn to Love Your Story Coaching– ⁠https://learntoloveyourstory.com⁠
• Dr. Natalie’s Counseling Practice – ⁠https://nataliemarrcounseling.com⁠ If you are in MN, book your free 15-minute consultation with Dr. Natalie.

• Facebook:⁠ ⁠⁠facebook.com/learntoloveyourstory⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠ instagram.com/dr.nataliemarr⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Linked In:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠linkedin.com/in/natalie-m-marr-psy-d-lp-6a9298147

• ⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠tiktok.com/@doc.natalie⁠⁠⁠⁠

Resources:

• Mary Oliver’s Wild Geese Poem – https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/45587/wild-geese
• Women’s Health Initiative Study – https://www.nih.gov/news-events/nih-research-matters/women-s-health-initiative
• Understanding Perfectionism in Women – https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-moment-youth/201911/the-perfectionism-epidemic
• Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) Information – https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/menopause/in-depth/hormone-therapy/art-20046372

DISCLAIMER:

The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with Learn To Love Your Story coaching ⁠⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://LearnToLoveYourStory.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠)⁠ and her private practice ⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://NatalieMarrCounseling.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠),⁠ and all affiliate social media entities are educational ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic or coaching services of any kind on these mediums.

If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):

• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org⁠/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠CALL 988

• Crisis Text Line: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.crisistextline.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Text HOME to 741741