Dr. Natalie explores the intersection of midlife challenges, hormonal changes, and childhood trauma, emphasizing that women’s struggles are often systemic and not personal failures. She discusses how hormonal shifts affect stress resilience and the importance of inner work and therapy to achieve a centered midlife.
Hormonal changes in midlife and their impact on stress resilience
The role of childhood trauma in adult midlife struggles
Inner child work and shadow work as tools for healing
Systemic societal expectations and their effects on women in midlife
Key Frameworks
Inner Child Work
Shadow Work
Core Belief Systems
Action Items
Seek therapy to unpack childhood trauma
Consider hormone therapy with medical guidance
Set boundaries to protect your mental health
Prioritize love and acceptance of your current life
Sound Bites
“Childhood trauma can resurface in midlife.” “Love your life right now, all of it.” “This was never your fault.”
Chapters
00:00 The Burden of Expectations on Women 13:18 Childhood Trauma and Its Resurgence in Midlife 19:07 Introduction and Disclaimer 20:43 Crisis Resources and Support
Midlife/Trauma Resources
Therapy for Trauma and Inner Child Work – https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists
The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with (https://LearnToLoveYourStory.com), (https://NatalieMarrCounseling.com), and all affiliate social media entities is educational and coaching based ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic services of any kind on these mediums. If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):
In this conversation, Dr. Natalie reflects on her journey through midlife, particularly focusing on the challenges of perimenopause and the emotional turmoil that often accompanies it. She discusses the importance of letting go of societal expectations and the pressure to conform, emphasizing the need for self-acceptance and compassion. Dr. Natalie also explores the concept of procedural memory and how our ingrained habits can shape our perceptions and emotional responses. Ultimately, she encourages listeners to redefine their narratives and embrace a centered midlife, free from the burdens of self-judgment and societal standards. Episode 117: Expert Advice on Addressing the #1 Symptom in Perimenopause: https://spotifycreators-web.app.link/e/y7WjcCkjf1b or https://youtu.be/GFTFQGbN1rg Keywords: midlife, perimenopause, self-acceptance, emotional health, procedural memory, self-compassion, personal growth, women empowerment, mental health, life transitions
Takeaways
Turning 50 can be a liberating experience.
It’s important to decide what truly matters to us.
Perimenopause can bring significant emotional challenges.
Irritability is a common symptom of hormonal changes.95% of our thoughts and behaviors are pre-programmed.
We can reprogram our thoughts to be more compassionate.
Self-acceptance is crucial for mental well-being.
We often hold ourselves to unrealistic standards.
It’s essential to shift our narratives about ourselves.
You are not broken; you are a work in progress.
Sound bites
“I was waking up that way.” “Tell yourself a new story.” “You are not broken.”
Chapters
00:00 Embracing Midlife: A New Perspective 06:35 Reprogramming the Mind: Breaking Free from Old Habits 12:20 Redefining Self-Worth: A Journey to Centered Midlife
The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with (https://LearnToLoveYourStory.com), (https://NatalieMarrCounseling.com), and all affiliate social media entities is educational and coaching based ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic services of any kind on these mediums. If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):
In this heartfelt episode, Dr. Natalie addresses midlife women feeling overwhelmed by the pressure to fix and manage everything alone. She offers insight into how hyper-independence and the fear of abandonment can contribute to burnout and midlife struggles—and most importantly, how self-love can help rewrite these patterns.
Key Topics:
The emotional toll of hyper-independence in midlife women
The neurochemistry of pursuit and addiction to dopamine hits
Childhood experiences shaping adult patterns of fixing and pleasing
Recognizing and interrupting the spiral of justification and validation
The importance of self-love as an antidote to burnout and scarcity mindset
How fear of abandonment fuels hyper-independence
Practical steps to love yourself through mistakes and vulnerabilities
Moving away from rescuing everyone and focusing on personal peace
Time Stamps
00:00 – Addressing hyper-independent women in midlife
02:09 – The neurochemical roots of pursuit and addiction to dopamine
03:34 – How the chase reinforces the cycle of burnout
04:33 – Personal stories of controlling or fixing others
05:58 – Childhood patterns influencing adult need for approval
06:53 – Recognizing the spiral of justifying and validating
08:22 – The pain of not being liked or validated
09:04 – The risks of over-investment in work and relationships
10:30 – How derailments in pursuit reveal deeper patterns
11:56 – The spiral of self-justification in times of stress
13:20 – The link between childhood chaos and adult control issues
14:19 – Self-love as the key to breaking free from cycles
16:41 – The importance of loving yourself despite mistakes
19:34 – Understanding the fear of rejection and scarcity mindset
20:03 – Letting go of blame and the need for approval
21:01 – Managing relationships without spiraling into chaos
22:24 – Embracing age and experience for self-compassion
23:21 – The power of loving your story, including dysfunction
24:19 – Sharing this message with other midlife women
25:17 – Letting go of the cycle of justification and abandonment fears
26:15 – Finding peace and building inner self-worth
The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with (LearnToLoveYourStory.com), (NatalieMarrCounseling.com), and all affiliate social media entities is educational and coaching based ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic services of any kind on these mediums.
If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):
In this podcast episode, Dr. Natalie shares her personal journey through midlife, discussing the challenges she faced with hormonal changes, medical care, and the importance of self-care. She emphasizes the need for women to advocate for their health, explore alternative medicine, and find supportive communities. Dr. Natalie also touches on the role of nutrition and exercise in managing midlife changes and encourages listeners to engage in conversations about women’s health.
Key Takeaways: – Dr. Natalie discusses her absence from the podcast and the importance of self-care. – She reflects on the hormonal changes of midlife and their impact on health. – The medical field often overlooks women’s health issues, especially in midlife. – Dr. Natalie shares her frustrating experiences with traditional medical care. – She emphasizes the importance of finding healthcare providers who listen and understand. – Alternative medicine provided her with a sense of being heard and supported. – Nutrition and exercise play crucial roles in managing midlife health. – Dr. Natalie encourages women to advocate for their health and seek support. – She acknowledges the emotional toll of midlife changes and the need for community. – The podcast aims to create a roadmap for women navigating midlife challenges.
Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Personal Update 09:37 The Search for Effective Treatment 16:20 Reflections on Health and Future Plans 17:44 Season 2 Legal Disclaimer.MP4
Let me tell you what I know about how hard it is to be a woman in midlife right about now. IMPOSSIBLE!!! And yet you don’t see any of us falling down like flies. NOPE…we are all in survival mode. A BEAST MODE if I’ve ever seen one and a mode that we have been in for more years of our lives than we would like to admit. Right now this survival mode is even more apparent as we try to make the impossible decisions of how to care for everyone else in our lives in this post-pandemic world. Whether we are caretakers or not, we are nurturing and this whole mess has us in a bad position.
For starters, we are no where near out of this COVID thing and that means we are no where near normal (whatever that means). The backlash of having had our lives turned upside down is the sister pandemic of a subsequent mental health crisis we are no in. I Vlogged (see the video below) on this very issue at the start of this pandemic…it is hard and we are not going to come out the other side the same. We can’t. We will be forever changed by this experience.
I worry about women in midlife. We have no idea how this is going to affect us in the long run. And guess what, after all the waves of the physical illness are finally over…really over…no variants left and the whole thing under control…that is when people will start coming out of the emotional survival mode that they have been in since the start of this. So we have no idea what that fallout will look like, and I promise you we have not done the preparations for this. You thought not having enough PPE at the start of the pandemic for the front line workers was bad? Just wait until people are in mental health crisis and we learn how under staffed the mental health field is. Not to mention the fact that SO MANY people do not have the access to mental health resources or will not use these resources because of the stigma attached to “mental health” problems.
Sure we have had moments when we peeked out of the survival mode that we are in. Losing our $&#% on someone in traffic, at our family, or at that neighbor that is just driving us nuts. Yet, for the most part, we have been emotionally numb…what psychologists call dissociation. I wrote a blog and made a video (see below) on this subject not too long ago as well. Dissociation is the form of survival mode when we play dead. In the wild we see this when the gazelle gets caught by the lioness. It plays dead in the hopes that the lioness will let the gazelle go and move on for another kill. Meanwhile, the gazelle may have ONE LAST CHANCE of survival by waking up just enough to run away again. This is where we are at. We are the gazelle. We are playing dead, being real still and hoping as hard as we can that COVID will go away and things will be normal again (whatever that means).
So what does all this have to do with why I am afraid for women in midlife right now? Because so many women in midlife live a great deal of their adult existence in survival mode…and this is when there IS NOT a worldwide pandemic. We step up to the socially appropriate roles that we have been given, as pretty to look at, as caregivers and nurturers, as team players and not necessarily leaders (always the bridesmaid but never the bride). Yet we shy away from our own inner voices on how we should be in the world. Midlife is usually the natural time of transitions that land women in midlife square in the position to be coming into their own and moving out of the corsets of socially accepted roles. These transitions are difficult in their own right…not always crises, yet challenging enough. And you guessed it…going through COVID overshadowed this whole kitten caboodle and then added a crap ton more stress right on top of it.
When we come to the point when the physical illness portion of the pandemic comes under some form of control, midlife women are going to be under a level of duress that is likely to LEVEL them! This is what I am worried about it. It is why I created LearnToLoveYourStory.com. I knew there would not be enough therapists in the world or access to those therapists to save us all. We need more venues to gain access to the help we are going to need on the other side of this. Not to mention we are going to need each other…a community of women suffering in the same way, who know what its like and are equipped to lift one another up.
That’s where my Online Course and Coaching Programs will come in real handy. I designed my programs with just this purpose in mind. Ready made groups of women learning the skills of how to pivot through any life transition, courses that guide you on how you can do this at your own pace, and even individual coaching for those that want that personal touch through their growth process. Let’s help you to escape falling into a midlife crisis or some other demise.
So if you do nothing for yourself but this…take a look at my courses and programs, and join our free online community. Make this coming year the year you design the life YOU WANT and that YOU LOVE. And send this blog to any women in midlife you know. They need to see it!!! They may look perfectly fine on the outside, yet the ugly truth is…that is the survival mode talking. When we come out of that mode, the emotional toll will seem to tall to manage for so very many of us.
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The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with LearnToLoveYourStory.com and all affiliate social media entities is educational and coaching based ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic services of any kind on these mediums.
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I know we are all very different in our experiences in life, yet there are some very universal aspects to our lived experiences that I think we overlook. We think that we are “all alone” in our experience, when in fact we are not alone. In fact, we may all of been there in one capacity or another. So today’s blog is really about helping us to explore this concept and maybe save ourselves from the collective illusion that we are alone in our suffering.
When I was in my thirties, I found myself in a management position on a large scale for the first time. I had supervised and managed prior to this, but during this particular stint in my career I found myself in boardrooms with individuals (mostly male and mostly white), whom had been doing these jobs for decades. I was definitely the lowest on the totem pole as far as seniority and gender role, and most definitely was seen as green. This lead me into a continual battle of trying to prove my worth in this environment. I was working harder and longer hours than anyone else in this level of management and getting less recognition than all of them. It came to a head for me towards the end of my work with this agency, when I joined a coalition within the agency that was looking at making some modifications across disciplines and the CEO of one of those disciplinary areas took credit for not just part, but all of what I did. ALL OF IT. I am certain that my name never even came up in the rooms where this man pitched these ideas. He later was promoted and then found employment outside the agency entirely, and you better bet that this interdisciplinary project was part of the wave he was riding as he did so.
This was a major learning moment for me. I had the fortune of also working under a manager that was a woman, who had experienced many similar instances in her longer career with this organization. We commiserated some about this, yet that wasn’t enough to satisfy me. I was really upset by the feeling that there was a setup that I wasn’t going to be able to break working within this kind of a hierarchy. It was one of the factors that lead to my looking for other employment and moving on in my career. What I discovered is that once you are in the unenviable position of hustling for your worth and proving yourself, that energy takes over completely. Its lonely at the bottom. And if you don’t stop this pattern yourself there is no one else that will come to save you. You have to be your own hero. Others will always benefit from your assuming the myth that your worthiness must be proven. Others can (and many unfortunately will) capitalize on your courageous efforts to prove yourself by taking credit for your work, your credibility, and your value. Not everyone is trying to do this as an intentional and manipulative ploy. It is just that the system of “haves” and “have nots” will always result in more “haves” and “have nots”. If you assume the role of a “have not”, trying to always prove yourself to the “haves”, then you are perpetually within that energy.
This is not to say you can’t liberate yourself from this. You can, but you must remember that you will not liberate yourself within the context of this system. You will have to leave the system behind completely. Sometimes this happens in the literal sense, as it did for me when I left this position; and sometimes it is in a more figurative sense, when we leave behind the unspoken rules of “haves” and “have nots”, and dance to a different drummer right within the context we are stuck in. I’ve tried it both ways…and in both contexts I have learned another valuable lesson. It is always lonely at the bottom. Meaning…when we get started with a venture like this, we feel like we are on our own. We are fighting the fight, yet we are depleting our own stored energy because we have no back up.
I want to explore this part of the journey a little further. I see this “loneliness” factor as a rumble strip (for more explanation on what I mean by this, feel free to read another blog where I explain this metaphor in more detail). Loneliness tells us that we are slipping back into the “have” and “have not” paradigm again. We feel alone, because we are still indoctrinated in the illusion that we are fighting to prove our worth. When you notice that you have a case of the “I’m all alone in this”, stop. Here is where you need to change your tactics. The truth REALLY IS that we are NEVER ALONE. NEVER! In fact there is always people suffering in these same ways we are. We are not unique in these experiences.
In fact, the illusion that we are alone is a function of the “have/have not” system of oppression. Except, instead of others oppressing us, we are doing the work for them. This feature of how systems sustain inequalities is called internalized oppression. The things we were taught and learned we are now enforcing on ourselves. In this case, believing we are alone in this suffering keeps us locked in the energy of trying to prove ourselves over and over again. There is nothing to prove. We already have worth. Yet, if we keep trying to prove that worth, there is an implicit bias that we may not have that worth in the first place or we wouldn’t have to prove ourselves. As we continue to pursue proving ourselves we are keeping ourselves oppressed on autopilot, without anyone else having to do anything.
The remedy to this is to get connected to others. To build ourselves a community of people that let us know this is not the case. In the story I’ve shared here, my community started with someone else who had the same experience and was willing to help me see I was not alone. This connection started to build a community of other supporters in my career that were there when I felt stuck in the spiral of “have” and “have not”, and would challenge me to break the the cycle by not participating in my own suffering. I would stop trying to prove myself and would honor my worth. If those who I worked with didn’t honor that worth too, I would leave. They did not deserve my service if they could not honor the worth it brought to their organization. Ultimately that has lead to my working for myself. I said NO liberally. Said NO without abandon in these organizations when they were not honoring what I brought to the table. And eventually I said NO as many times as I needed and disappointed as many people as I needed, so as NEVER to disappoint myself again.
That is, until I realized I had become both my “have” and my “have not”. I had started to hustle for my worth in my worth again, even though I was working for myself. I wanted to prove myself to myself, that I could have my own practice and start a new business venture simultaneously. And when the math didn’t work, because there were not enough hours in the day, I doubled down and kept killing myself trying to make both work. I was going to prove it to myself that this could be done. But then I realized that insidious “have” and “have not” system had seeped into me again. I was feeling alone in my battle. I was noticing that I wasn’t feeling appreciated. I recognized that even without another person to prove myself to, I could get caught in the grips of proving myself and hustling for my worth. As I noted in my first blog in the “Mumblings of a Midlife Mess” series, I was going back to an old and familiar pattern and oppressing myself without even noticing.
The antidote…community. And you, my story lovers, are a part of that for me. I need to surround myself in the truth that I already have the worth and no hustling is necessary. I don’t need to prove that the side hustle can out-do the day job. It already has that worth. I just have to have faith in that truth and act accordingly. So, I share this with you to help you see that even we can be our own oppressors. Even with the best of intentions, we can fall into old patterns. And one of the ways that we can stop this in its tracks, is to share it with others. To out it. To say aloud, this system is not serving me and is not true.
I am not lonely at the bottom, fighting for my worth. I am in good company all around. We have all done this to ourselves and we will all continue to fall into these old patterns. Yet, if we come together and gain the support of one another when we recognize this, we can and will transcend this.
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Struggle to articulate how you feel to others
Experience guilt about how you’re feeling
Have lost your way
Are struggling to overcome turmoil in your life
Have become resigned to accepting a life you don’t love
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Are you seeking a path to personal growth that’s not just effective but also fun? In this enlightening episode of “Midlife Crisis to a Centered Life Thriving,” Dr. Natalie takes you on a transformative journey filled with joy and laughter.
For many women, midlife can bring on a sense of restlessness or even crisis, but Dr. Natalie is here to tell you that this phase of life can be your greatest adventure yet. She delves into the heart of the midlife experience and guides you on a quest to make change a thrilling and effortless endeavor.
Dr. Natalie shares her wisdom on how to infuse every step of your personal transformation with excitement and enthusiasm, helping women turn the effort of change into fun opportunities for growth. You’ll learn how to make change not only effective but also genuinely enjoyable.
Tune in to discover the power of gamification and the connection between a joyous approach and the ease of progress. Whether you’re navigating a midlife crisis or simply seeking to thrive during midlife, this episode will inspire you to transform your life with a smile on your face and a spring in your step.
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The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with LearnToLoveYourStory.com and all affiliate social media entities is educational and coaching based ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic services of any kind on these mediums.
If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):
Words can be very powerful. They create narratives for us. They tell us a story about what we are seeing and experiencing in our lives. And, depending on the habits we have gotten into with our words, these words may even morph into a pattern for how we see the world.
What am I talking about? Let me give you an example. I must spill something on a white shirt literally every time I wear one. I am sure there are spills on some of my other colored clothing too, but like clockwork there seems to be a coffee stain or something else colorful on every white piece of clothing I own. So, let’s say this happens and I say, “Natalie, you’re such an clutz! Why can’t you wear white once and not spill on yourself?”
Seems like a normal response to this right? Well, let’s compare that to, “Oh my goodness Natalie. Seems like spilling on your white clothes is just your go-to move” followed by a laugh. What I am getting at is how in the first comment I am devaluing myself as a person because of my behavior and in the second comment I am just making fun of my behavior. It’s a subtle difference in wording that makes a major difference in how we think and feel about ourselves.
I can’t tell you the number of times I have sat across from a client who is struggling with feelings of shame and low self-worth. It’s almost epidemic in our American culture, where we are marketed at from birth to death. And the underlying message from this is that the way we are isn’t good enough as is, so “Buy this product and you’ll be better!!!”. When this culture mixes in with saying things to ourselves and others like, “I am such a clutz!” instead of “Spilling was just an accident”, we alienate ourselves more and more. Self-talk that devalues the person can increase feelings of shame.
So, why do we do this? Possibly because we were taught to. Or, because culture is so prone to use these concepts in marketing. Or even because once it is a habit in our thinking, we start to do it as second nature. I mean think about it, my comment to myself that I was an clutz for spilling on myself is not all that uncommon, is it? We say things like it all the time. Yet, words hold power. They define things and they narrowly begin to categorize things. So if I call myself names like that enough, it isn’t hard for me to start truly believing this. And this can lead to feeling uncomfortable or awkward when people compliment me, because those compliments aren’t in alignment with what I believe about myself.
I would challenge you this week to take a look at how you talk to yourself, to your friends, and to your family. You might even look at how you talk to others on social media. What phrases do you use? What message do they imply? Is that what you intended to say? I want you to start to notice the words and phrases that are your go-to’s and then think about what narrative those words are creating for you, telling you about yourself and your world.
Our stories are intricately a part of who we are, whether we are calling out the story and looking at it or not. Words are how we make up these stories and word choice is a very powerful thing. Just notice this week where the power is in your words. No need to change things (at least not yet). The first step in anything you want to address, much less change, is to recognize that it is there.
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It seems like such an intuitive thing to do, yet we are very challenged in our ability to stay kind towards ourselves. This form of self compassion seems to fly in the face of the internal mantras we have of judgmental self-evaluation, as a means to keep ourselves “on course“. Basically, we like our whips. We like to use self-critical evaluation as a way to stay on track.
This does not always serve us, however. Being kind to ourself is a form of self compassion that uses our first language, behavior. You know…how babies talk…by crying in order to get the adults in their life to meet their needs. This language of behavior is still our first language as adults. If we do kind things for ourselves the message we send to us is that we are worthy. We are worthy of investing our time in. We are worthy of investing our energy in. We are worthy of investing our love in.
Take a look at Dr. Natalie‘s video message this week on how you can be kind to yourself.
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Women Empowering Women Series – Interview w/ Mary Keane
In this episode of “Midlife Crisis to a Centered Life Thriving,” join your host, Dr. Natalie, as she sits down with the remarkable Mary Keane, a woman who has navigated through various stages of life, accumulating wisdom from diverse fields. Mary’s journey began in the world of literature, writing books about goats and sheep. It then shifted to computer software, where she broke barriers as a woman in a predominantly male industry. And she also shares a ton about growing up all around the world, never staying in one place for too long, as well as her huge physical transformation in midlife as she trained herself and other women to be triathletes. Most recently, Mary embarked on a pilgrimage and a profound spiritual and transformational journey. As an accomplished author, Mary delved into the her art of storytelling in this podcast, using her words to inspire and empower us.
Driven by a desire to find deeper meaning and purpose, she set out to discover the essence of her existence. Join us as Mary shares her experiences and the lessons she has learned along the way. Delve into the challenges she faced in her career and how she found strength and resilience in the face of adversity. Discover how her exploration of spirituality and pilgrimage provided a new perspective on life, guiding her towards self-discovery and inner peace.
Throughout the conversation, Mary uncovers surprising connections that illuminate the path to a centered life. Mary’s lifetime of wisdom and unique insights will inspire listeners to embrace their own journeys, find balance amidst chaos, and thrive in all aspects of life. Tune in for an uplifting and transformative conversation that will leave you with a fresh outlook on midlife and beyond.
Join us as we work together to help you design the life you have always wanted for yourself. No gimmicks! Just results! Dr. Natalie has nearly two decades of experience as a Clinical Psychologist and she is ready to help women in midlife break the chains of living in constant survival mode.
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Keywords: Midlife Wisdom; Pivoting in Life; Embracing Change; Love the Life You’re In; Finding Purpose in Midlife; Navigating Transitions; Reinventing Yourself; New Opportunities; Embracing Self-Love; Living Authentically; Redefining Success; Cultivating Resilience; Embracing Imperfections; Finding Joy in Everyday Moments; Wisdom from Mary Keane, Author; Inspiring Stories of Transformation; Empowering Midlife Women; Mindfulness in Midlife; Reconnecting with Passion; Lessons from Life’s Challenges; Midlife Women; Podcast for Women
Midlife Marvels and the Magical Power of Self-Belief
Welcome to the latest episode of “Midlife Crisis to Centered Life Thriving!” with Dr. Natalie—the podcast that’s all about empowering women in their prime to take charge of their lives and make their wildest dreams a reality. In this enlightening episode, we dive deep into uncovering the well-kept secret to unlocking a life of pure bliss: unshakable self-belief!
Join our witty host, Dr. Natalie, as she embarks on an unforgettable journey through midlife transformations, laughter, and the occasional misadventure. In this episode, Dr. Natalie reveals the jaw-dropping story from her own life that demonstrates the superpower of self-belief on our path to manifestation. If only all women could embrace their inner superheroes and unleash the mighty power of self-belief to conquer the world, one hilarious hurdle at a time.
From practical tips to laugh-out-loud anecdotes, this episode is a treasure trove of wisdom designed to uplift and empower every fabulous woman in her prime.
So, whether you’re pondering a career change, dreaming of a relationship, or simply seeking inspiration to unleash your inner best self, this episode is an absolute must-listen. Prepare for laughter, empowerment, and a renewed zest for life as we unravel the mysterious power of self-belief in the marvelous world of midlife!
Tune in now and let the magic begin! Remember to subscribe, rate, and share with your fellow midlife mavens to spread the joy and unlock limitless possibilities together.
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What Course Is Right For You?
So many of us get stuck at some point during our lives. We know that we are not fully happy, yet we don't really know what's missing. We just know that we thought it would feel better than this by now. So what gives?
Dr. Natalie's online courses are designed to help you build the skills you need not only to find out what seems to be missing in your life and keeping you stuck; her courses will help you liberate yourself from your past and starting designing the LIFE YOU HAVE ALWAYS WANTED.
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Please be sure to sign up. Even if you can’t join every month, you will also have access to online courses, workbooks, guided meditations, and get the video highlights sent out after each months group coaching event. It is well worth it!!! Make 2023 your year!!!
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