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Bucking the System, Dr. Natalie Podcast, Midlife Women, Selfish is the New Selfless

The Exhausting Lie that Perfectionism Sold You

Summary:

This episode explores the impact of perfectionism, societal conditioning, and hormonal changes during midlife on women’s mental health. Dr. Natalie shares data, personal insights, and practical advice to help women love themselves and navigate this transformative phase with resilience.

Keywords:

midlife, women, perfectionism, mental health, hormonal changes, self-love, resilience, menopause, societal conditioning

Key topics:

  • Perfectionism and its impact on mental health
  • The connection between hormonal changes and emotional well-being
  • Societal conditioning and self-betrayal in women
  • Practical steps to cultivate self-love and resilience

Sound bites:

  • “Relearn who you are and what you want.”
  • “Deserving love even when you screw up.”
  • “You do not have to be good.”

Chapters:

  • 00:00 The Burden of Perfectionism in Midlife
  • 03:24 Understanding the Mental Health Crisis for Women
  • 11:29 The Impact of Hormonal Changes and Medical Misunderstandings
  • 28:13 Reclaiming Self-Worth and Breaking Free from Perfectionism
  • 36:18 Introduction and Disclaimer
  • 37:55 Crisis Resources and Support

Resources & Links to Connect with Dr. Natalie:

Resources:

DISCLAIMER:

The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with Learn To Love Your Story coaching ⁠⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://LearnToLoveYourStory.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠)⁠ and her private practice ⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://NatalieMarrCounseling.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠),⁠ and all affiliate social media entities are educational ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic or coaching services of any kind on these mediums.

If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):

Dr. Natalie Podcast

Why Burning Out at 50 is More About Brain Habits Than Age

In this conversation, Dr. Natalie reflects on her journey through midlife, particularly focusing on the challenges of perimenopause and the emotional turmoil that often accompanies it. She discusses the importance of letting go of societal expectations and the pressure to conform, emphasizing the need for self-acceptance and compassion. Dr. Natalie also explores the concept of procedural memory and how our ingrained habits can shape our perceptions and emotional responses. Ultimately, she encourages listeners to redefine their narratives and embrace a centered midlife, free from the burdens of self-judgment and societal standards.
Episode 117: Expert Advice on Addressing the #1 Symptom in Perimenopause:⁠ https://spotifycreators-web.app.link/e/y7WjcCkjf1b⁠ or ⁠https://youtu.be/GFTFQGbN1rg⁠
Keywords:
midlife, perimenopause, self-acceptance, emotional health, procedural memory, self-compassion, personal growth, women empowerment, mental health, life transitions

Takeaways

  • Turning 50 can be a liberating experience.
  • It’s important to decide what truly matters to us.
  • Perimenopause can bring significant emotional challenges.
  • Irritability is a common symptom of hormonal changes.95% of our thoughts and behaviors are pre-programmed.
  • We can reprogram our thoughts to be more compassionate.
  • Self-acceptance is crucial for mental well-being.
  • We often hold ourselves to unrealistic standards.
  • It’s essential to shift our narratives about ourselves.
  • You are not broken; you are a work in progress.

Sound bites

“I was waking up that way.”
“Tell yourself a new story.”
“You are not broken.”

Chapters

00:00 Embracing Midlife: A New Perspective
06:35 Reprogramming the Mind: Breaking Free from Old Habits
12:20 Redefining Self-Worth: A Journey to Centered Midlife

Resources & Links to Connect with Dr. Natalie:

Website: ⁠⁠https://LearnToLoveYourStory.com⁠⁠ ⁠⁠
Facebook: ⁠facebook.com/learntoloveyourstory⁠⁠
Instagram:⁠⁠ instagram.com/dr.nataliemarr⁠⁠
Linked In: ⁠⁠linkedin.com/in/natalie-m-marr-psy-d-lp-6a9298147⁠⁠
Tik Tok: ⁠⁠tiktok.com/@doc.natalie⁠⁠

DISCLAIMER:

The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with ⁠⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠https://LearnToLoveYourStory.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠)⁠, ⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://NatalieMarrCounseling.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠),⁠ and all affiliate social media entities is educational and coaching based ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic services of any kind on these mediums. If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org⁠/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
CALL 988

Crisis Text Line:
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.crisistextline.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Text HOME to 741741

Dr. Natalie Podcast, Midlife Women, Self-Awareness, Self-Compassion

What to Let Go of in Midlife

In this heartfelt episode, Dr. Natalie addresses midlife women feeling overwhelmed by the pressure to fix and manage everything alone. She offers insight into how hyper-independence and the fear of abandonment can contribute to burnout and midlife struggles—and most importantly, how self-love can help rewrite these patterns.


Key Topics:

  • The emotional toll of hyper-independence in midlife women
  • The neurochemistry of pursuit and addiction to dopamine hits
  • Childhood experiences shaping adult patterns of fixing and pleasing
  • Recognizing and interrupting the spiral of justification and validation
  • The importance of self-love as an antidote to burnout and scarcity mindset
  • How fear of abandonment fuels hyper-independence
  • Practical steps to love yourself through mistakes and vulnerabilities
  • Moving away from rescuing everyone and focusing on personal peace

Time Stamps

00:00 – Addressing hyper-independent women in midlife

02:09 – The neurochemical roots of pursuit and addiction to dopamine

03:34 – How the chase reinforces the cycle of burnout

04:33 – Personal stories of controlling or fixing others

05:58 – Childhood patterns influencing adult need for approval

06:53 – Recognizing the spiral of justifying and validating

08:22 – The pain of not being liked or validated

09:04 – The risks of over-investment in work and relationships

10:30 – How derailments in pursuit reveal deeper patterns

11:56 – The spiral of self-justification in times of stress

13:20 – The link between childhood chaos and adult control issues

14:19 – Self-love as the key to breaking free from cycles

16:41 – The importance of loving yourself despite mistakes

19:34 – Understanding the fear of rejection and scarcity mindset

20:03 – Letting go of blame and the need for approval

21:01 – Managing relationships without spiraling into chaos

22:24 – Embracing age and experience for self-compassion

23:21 – The power of loving your story, including dysfunction

24:19 – Sharing this message with other midlife women

25:17 – Letting go of the cycle of justification and abandonment fears

26:15 – Finding peace and building inner self-worth

Resources and Links

Connect with Dr. Natalie:

Website https://LearnToLoveYourStory.com⁠⁠
Facebook facebook.com/learntoloveyourstory
Instagram instagram.com/dr.nataliemarr
Linked In linkedin.com/in/natalie-m-marr-psy-d-lp-6a9298147
Tik Tok tiktok.com/@doc.natalie

DISCLAIMER:

The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with ⁠⁠(⁠LearnToLoveYourStory.com⁠⁠⁠⁠)⁠, ⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠NatalieMarrCounseling.com⁠⁠⁠),⁠ and all affiliate social media entities is educational and coaching based ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic services of any kind on these mediums.

If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org⁠/⁠⁠⁠⁠ or CALL 988

Crisis Text Line: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.crisistextline.org/ or⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Text HOME to 741741

Dr. Natalie Podcast, Midlife Women, Self-Awareness

Episode 73: Reflection and Self-Discovery – The Power of Journaling

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A Special Interview with Kathleen Adams

In this episode of Midlife Crisis to a Centered Life Thriving, Dr. Natalie and Kathleen Adams discuss the power of journaling in midlife and beyond. They explore the different techniques and benefits of journaling, including accessing inner wisdom, gaining perspective, and finding clarity. They also discuss the importance of privacy and setting boundaries in journaling. Kathleen shares practical tips for making journaling a habit, such as starting with short, focused sessions and using reflection to gain insights. Overall, this conversation highlights the transformative potential of journaling in navigating the challenges and opportunities of midlife.

Kathleen Adams shares her passion for journaling and how it can help with personal growth and navigating midlife. She discusses the misconceptions about journaling and the different techniques and strategies that can be used. She also highlights the benefits of journaling in therapy and how it can enhance the therapeutic process. Kathleen shares her own journey with journaling and how it has been a constant tool in her life. She emphasizes the importance of structure, pacing, containment, and permission in therapeutic writing.

To access more on Kathleen Adams’s Work, click the link below:

Website: ⁠http://www.journaltherapy.com/

Takeaways:

    • Journaling can be a powerful tool for personal growth and self-reflection.
    • There are misconceptions about journaling, but it can be adapted to fit individual preferences and needs.
    • Structure, pacing, containment, and permission are important guidelines for therapeutic writing.
    • Journaling can enhance the therapeutic process and help clients explore their thoughts, emotions, and experiences outside of therapy sessions.
    • Journaling can be a valuable practice for individuals navigating midlife and seeking clarity and self-discovery.
    • Journaling can help access inner wisdom and gain perspective in midlife.
    • Setting boundaries and ensuring privacy are important aspects of journaling.
    • Starting with short, focused journaling sessions can help make it a habit.
    • Reflection at the end of journaling can lead to insights and self-discovery.
    • Journaling can be a powerful tool for navigating the challenges and opportunities of midlife.

Do any of these sound like you?

    • Feel a sense of lack, despite success in life or having done everything “right”
    • Struggle to articulate how you feel to others
    • Experience guilt about how you’re feeling
    • Have lost your way
    • Are struggling to overcome turmoil in your life
    • Have become resigned to accepting a life you don’t love

Many of us are suffering like this — daily life has become an ordeal, and we don’t know where or how to find help.

Dr. Natalie’s Online Courses and Coaching CAN HELP. Click below and get started.

Click Here for Your FREE Gift

You don’t want to miss a thing we are doing here at LearnToLoveYourStory.com.  From our weekly podcasts to our library of blogs and videos that can help you step into a more centered life.

Allow Dr. Natalie to guide you on this empowering adventure to break free, rediscover your passion, and create the life you’ve always envisioned for yourself. Your journey to empowerment starts here. Join our Mailing List today!

Join Now

Need more clarity on your midlife journey? Sign up for a complimentary call with Dr. Natalie to explore if her transformative coaching program aligns with your aspirations.

Get personalized answers to your questions and discover if Dr. Natalie can help you untangle where you life is now and design the life you want to be living.

Don’t miss the opportunity to embark on a life-changing experience – schedule your complimentary call today and take the first step toward designing the life you deserve!

Please press the “START” button below to answer a few questions and schedule your consultation:


Keywords: journaling, personal growth, midlife, misconceptions, techniques, strategies, therapy, structure, pacing, containment, permission, journaling, midlife, inner wisdom, perspective, clarity, privacy, boundaries, habit, reflection, podcast for women, podcast for midlife, Dr. Natalie, Midlife Crisis to a Centered Life Thriving

Disclaimer

The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with LearnToLoveYourStory.com and all affiliate social media entities is educational and coaching based ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic services of any kind on these mediums.

If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

CALL 988

Crisis Text Line: https://www.crisistextline.org/

Text HOME to 741741

Dr. Natalie Podcast, Midlife Women, Self-Awareness, Self-Compassion, Selfish is the New Selfless

Episode 61 – What Do You Mean, “Do Your Work”?

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Special Interview with Rachel Astarte, Holistic Psychotherapist and Self-Evolution Mentor

In today’s episode, Dr. Natalie and Rachel Astarte discuss the challenges faced by women in midlife, such as the comparison trap and the need to redefine oneself. Rachel encourages listeners to embrace the transformative process of midlife by leaning into your own wisdom and power. In this conversation, Dr. Natalie and Rachel Astarte discuss the importance of self-work and self-development.

Rachel Astarte, shares her story and discusses the importance of self-love and self-development in midlife. She emphasizes the need to have a relationship with oneself and to prioritize self-care and self-discovery. Rachel explains that this inner work is essential for personal growth and for making a positive impact on the world. She also shares insights from her book ‘Celebrating Solitude: How to Develop and Honor Your Highest Self’ and discusses the importance of creating a solitude practice.

Dr. Natalie and Rachel talk about the “work” as the journey towards loving and accepting oneself, and the impact it has on relationships, careers, and overall well-being. They highlight the significance of non-judgment and reframing self-talk, as well as the value of community and support in the self-development journey. Both Dr. Natalie and Rachel stress the importance of doing one’s own work and the transformative power it holds.

Takeaways:

  • Having a relationship with oneself is essential for personal growth and making a positive impact on the world.
  • Self-love and self-development are crucial in midlife.
  • Women in midlife often face challenges such as the comparison trap and the need to redefine themselves.
  • Embracing the transformative process of midlife allows individuals to embrace their wisdom and power.
  • Self-work and self-development are essential for personal growth and well-being.
  • Loving and accepting oneself is crucial for healthy relationships and a fulfilling life.
  • Non-judgment and reframing self-talk can lead to a more compassionate and loving relationship with oneself.
  • Community and support play a significant role in the self-development journey.
  • Creating a solitude practice can help cultivate self-love and prioritize one’s needs.
  • Doing one’s own work is transformative and empowers individuals to live a centered and thriving life.

For more information about Rachel Astarte’s work go to:

Website: https://rachelastartetherapy.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rachelastartetherapy

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rachelastartetherapy/

Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rachelastarte/

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/rachelastarte

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC83Cmn3ofpLuaFBl-oRL4SQ

Do any of these sound like you?

    • Feel a sense of lack, despite success in life or having done everything “right”
    • Struggle to articulate how you feel to others
    • Experience guilt about how you’re feeling
    • Have lost your way
    • Are struggling to overcome turmoil in your life
    • Have become resigned to accepting a life you don’t love

Many of us are suffering like this — daily life has become an ordeal, and we don’t know where or how to find help.

Dr. Natalie’s Online Courses and Coaching CAN HELP. Click below and get started.

Click Here for Your FREE Gift

You don’t want to miss a thing we are doing here at LearnToLoveYourStory.com.  From our weekly podcasts to our library of blogs and videos that can help you step into a more centered life.

Allow Dr. Natalie to guide you on this empowering adventure to break free, rediscover your passion, and create the life you’ve always envisioned for yourself. Your journey to empowerment starts here. Join our Mailing List today!

Join Now

Need more clarity on your midlife journey? Sign up for a complimentary call with Dr. Natalie to explore if her transformative coaching program aligns with your aspirations.

Get personalized answers to your questions and discover if Dr. Natalie can help you untangle where you life is now and design the life you want to be living.

Don’t miss the opportunity to embark on a life-changing experience – schedule your complimentary call today and take the first step toward designing the life you deserve!

Please press the “START” button below to answer a few questions and schedule your consultation:


Keywords: self-love, self-development, midlife, relationship with oneself, self-care, personal growth, comparison trap, redefine oneself, wisdom, power, self-work, self-development, self-love, non-judgment, reframing self-talk, community, support, solitude practice, transformation, podcast for women, Dr. Natalie, Rachel Astarte, Midlife Crisis to a Centered Life Thriving

Disclaimer

The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with LearnToLoveYourStory.com and all affiliate social media entities is educational and coaching based ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic services of any kind on these mediums.

If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

CALL 988

Crisis Text Line: https://www.crisistextline.org/

Text HOME to 741741