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Bucking the System, Dr. Natalie Podcast, Midlife Women, Self-Compassion

The Petty Comeback I Didn’t Send

Summary:

Dr. Natalie shares a personal story about handling petty moments, grief, and the importance of protecting your energy and self-worth during midlife. This episode offers insights into emotional resilience, boundaries, and self-acceptance.

Keywords:

midlife, emotional resilience, boundaries, self-worth, personal growth, grief, self-acceptance, mental health, self-protection, life transitions

Key topics:

  • Handling petty moments and emotional triggers
  • The importance of boundaries and self-protection
  • Grief and loss during midlife
  • Self-acceptance and personal growth
  • Navigating relationships and social judgments

Takeaways:

  • It’s normal to feel petty or triggered; what matters is how you handle it.
  • Protect your energy fiercely and set boundaries around your self-worth.
  • Grief is a layered process, especially during major life transitions.
  • Your self-worth is independent of others’ opinions or judgments.
  • Reframing social judgments as small-mindedness helps maintain emotional resilience.

Sound bites:

  • “Growth doesn’t mean we don’t get triggered.”
  • “Protect your energy fiercely in midlife.”
  • “Your self-worth is independent of others’ opinions.”

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Petty Moments and Growth
2972:11:16 Sharing Personal Stories of Divorce and Loss
6999:58:15 The Pain of Being Misjudged and Abandoned
11694:25:11 The Fast Pace of Life and Aging Children
14888:52:05 Grief and Rejection in Midlife
196111:05:39 The Temptation to Be Petty and How to Resist
251666:39:27 Understanding Self-Worth Beyond Roles
296944:26:18 Setting Boundaries and Protecting Your Energy
333888:53:07 The Power of Self-Validation and Moving On


DISCLAIMER:

The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with ⁠⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://LearnToLoveYourStory.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠)⁠, ⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://NatalieMarrCounseling.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠),⁠ and all affiliate social media entities is educational and coaching based ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic services of any kind on these mediums. If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):

Bucking the System, Dr. Natalie Podcast, Midlife Women, Selfish is the New Selfless

The Exhausting Lie that Perfectionism Sold You

Summary:

This episode explores the impact of perfectionism, societal conditioning, and hormonal changes during midlife on women’s mental health. Dr. Natalie shares data, personal insights, and practical advice to help women love themselves and navigate this transformative phase with resilience.

Keywords:

midlife, women, perfectionism, mental health, hormonal changes, self-love, resilience, menopause, societal conditioning

Key topics:

  • Perfectionism and its impact on mental health
  • The connection between hormonal changes and emotional well-being
  • Societal conditioning and self-betrayal in women
  • Practical steps to cultivate self-love and resilience

Sound bites:

  • “Relearn who you are and what you want.”
  • “Deserving love even when you screw up.”
  • “You do not have to be good.”

Chapters:

  • 00:00 The Burden of Perfectionism in Midlife
  • 03:24 Understanding the Mental Health Crisis for Women
  • 11:29 The Impact of Hormonal Changes and Medical Misunderstandings
  • 28:13 Reclaiming Self-Worth and Breaking Free from Perfectionism
  • 36:18 Introduction and Disclaimer
  • 37:55 Crisis Resources and Support

Resources & Links to Connect with Dr. Natalie:

Resources:

DISCLAIMER:

The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with Learn To Love Your Story coaching ⁠⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://LearnToLoveYourStory.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠)⁠ and her private practice ⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://NatalieMarrCounseling.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠),⁠ and all affiliate social media entities are educational ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic or coaching services of any kind on these mediums.

If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):

Dr. Natalie Podcast, Emotional Wellness, Midlife Women

The Hidden Trauma of Midlife: How Childhood Shapes Your Stress Resilience

Summary

Dr. Natalie explores the intersection of midlife challenges, hormonal changes, and childhood trauma, emphasizing that women’s struggles are often systemic and not personal failures. She discusses how hormonal shifts affect stress resilience and the importance of inner work and therapy to achieve a centered midlife.

Keywords

midlife, hormonal changes, childhood trauma, stress resilience, inner child work, therapy, estrogen, progesterone, systemic issues, personal growth

Key Topics

  • Hormonal changes in midlife and their impact on stress resilience
  • The role of childhood trauma in adult midlife struggles
  • Inner child work and shadow work as tools for healing
  • Systemic societal expectations and their effects on women in midlife

Key Frameworks

  • Inner Child Work
  • Shadow Work
  • Core Belief Systems

Action Items

  • Seek therapy to unpack childhood trauma
  • Consider hormone therapy with medical guidance
  • Set boundaries to protect your mental health
  • Prioritize love and acceptance of your current life

Sound Bites

“Childhood trauma can resurface in midlife.”
“Love your life right now, all of it.”
“This was never your fault.”

Chapters

00:00 The Burden of Expectations on Women
13:18 Childhood Trauma and Its Resurgence in Midlife
19:07 Introduction and Disclaimer
20:43 Crisis Resources and Support

Midlife/Trauma Resources

  • Therapy for Trauma and Inner Child Work – https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists
  • Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) – https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/hormone-replacement-therapy
  • Understanding Perimenopause and Menopause – https://www.womenshealth.gov/menopause

Resources & Links to Connect with Dr. Natalie

  • Website: ⁠⁠https://LearnToLoveYourStory.com⁠⁠ ⁠⁠
  • Facebook: ⁠facebook.com/learntoloveyourstory⁠⁠
  • Instagram:⁠⁠ instagram.com/dr.nataliemarr⁠⁠
  • Linked In: ⁠⁠linkedin.com/in/natalie-m-marr-psy-d-lp-6a9298147⁠⁠
  • Tik Tok: ⁠⁠tiktok.com/@doc.natalie

Disclaimer

⁠⁠The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with ⁠⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠https://LearnToLoveYourStory.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠)⁠, ⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://NatalieMarrCounseling.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠),⁠ and all affiliate social media entities is educational and coaching based ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic services of any kind on these mediums. If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org⁠/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CALL 988

Crisis Text Line: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.crisistextline.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Text HOME to 741741

Dr. Natalie Podcast

Why Burning Out at 50 is More About Brain Habits Than Age

In this conversation, Dr. Natalie reflects on her journey through midlife, particularly focusing on the challenges of perimenopause and the emotional turmoil that often accompanies it. She discusses the importance of letting go of societal expectations and the pressure to conform, emphasizing the need for self-acceptance and compassion. Dr. Natalie also explores the concept of procedural memory and how our ingrained habits can shape our perceptions and emotional responses. Ultimately, she encourages listeners to redefine their narratives and embrace a centered midlife, free from the burdens of self-judgment and societal standards.
Episode 117: Expert Advice on Addressing the #1 Symptom in Perimenopause:⁠ https://spotifycreators-web.app.link/e/y7WjcCkjf1b⁠ or ⁠https://youtu.be/GFTFQGbN1rg⁠
Keywords:
midlife, perimenopause, self-acceptance, emotional health, procedural memory, self-compassion, personal growth, women empowerment, mental health, life transitions

Takeaways

  • Turning 50 can be a liberating experience.
  • It’s important to decide what truly matters to us.
  • Perimenopause can bring significant emotional challenges.
  • Irritability is a common symptom of hormonal changes.95% of our thoughts and behaviors are pre-programmed.
  • We can reprogram our thoughts to be more compassionate.
  • Self-acceptance is crucial for mental well-being.
  • We often hold ourselves to unrealistic standards.
  • It’s essential to shift our narratives about ourselves.
  • You are not broken; you are a work in progress.

Sound bites

“I was waking up that way.”
“Tell yourself a new story.”
“You are not broken.”

Chapters

00:00 Embracing Midlife: A New Perspective
06:35 Reprogramming the Mind: Breaking Free from Old Habits
12:20 Redefining Self-Worth: A Journey to Centered Midlife

Resources & Links to Connect with Dr. Natalie:

Website: ⁠⁠https://LearnToLoveYourStory.com⁠⁠ ⁠⁠
Facebook: ⁠facebook.com/learntoloveyourstory⁠⁠
Instagram:⁠⁠ instagram.com/dr.nataliemarr⁠⁠
Linked In: ⁠⁠linkedin.com/in/natalie-m-marr-psy-d-lp-6a9298147⁠⁠
Tik Tok: ⁠⁠tiktok.com/@doc.natalie⁠⁠

DISCLAIMER:

The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with ⁠⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠https://LearnToLoveYourStory.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠)⁠, ⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://NatalieMarrCounseling.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠),⁠ and all affiliate social media entities is educational and coaching based ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic services of any kind on these mediums. If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
⁠https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org⁠/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
CALL 988

Crisis Text Line:
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.crisistextline.org/⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Text HOME to 741741

Dr. Natalie Podcast, Midlife Women, Self-Awareness, Self-Compassion

What to Let Go of in Midlife

In this heartfelt episode, Dr. Natalie addresses midlife women feeling overwhelmed by the pressure to fix and manage everything alone. She offers insight into how hyper-independence and the fear of abandonment can contribute to burnout and midlife struggles—and most importantly, how self-love can help rewrite these patterns.


Key Topics:

  • The emotional toll of hyper-independence in midlife women
  • The neurochemistry of pursuit and addiction to dopamine hits
  • Childhood experiences shaping adult patterns of fixing and pleasing
  • Recognizing and interrupting the spiral of justification and validation
  • The importance of self-love as an antidote to burnout and scarcity mindset
  • How fear of abandonment fuels hyper-independence
  • Practical steps to love yourself through mistakes and vulnerabilities
  • Moving away from rescuing everyone and focusing on personal peace

Time Stamps

00:00 – Addressing hyper-independent women in midlife

02:09 – The neurochemical roots of pursuit and addiction to dopamine

03:34 – How the chase reinforces the cycle of burnout

04:33 – Personal stories of controlling or fixing others

05:58 – Childhood patterns influencing adult need for approval

06:53 – Recognizing the spiral of justifying and validating

08:22 – The pain of not being liked or validated

09:04 – The risks of over-investment in work and relationships

10:30 – How derailments in pursuit reveal deeper patterns

11:56 – The spiral of self-justification in times of stress

13:20 – The link between childhood chaos and adult control issues

14:19 – Self-love as the key to breaking free from cycles

16:41 – The importance of loving yourself despite mistakes

19:34 – Understanding the fear of rejection and scarcity mindset

20:03 – Letting go of blame and the need for approval

21:01 – Managing relationships without spiraling into chaos

22:24 – Embracing age and experience for self-compassion

23:21 – The power of loving your story, including dysfunction

24:19 – Sharing this message with other midlife women

25:17 – Letting go of the cycle of justification and abandonment fears

26:15 – Finding peace and building inner self-worth

Resources and Links

Connect with Dr. Natalie:

Website https://LearnToLoveYourStory.com⁠⁠
Facebook facebook.com/learntoloveyourstory
Instagram instagram.com/dr.nataliemarr
Linked In linkedin.com/in/natalie-m-marr-psy-d-lp-6a9298147
Tik Tok tiktok.com/@doc.natalie

DISCLAIMER:

The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with ⁠⁠(⁠LearnToLoveYourStory.com⁠⁠⁠⁠)⁠, ⁠(⁠⁠⁠⁠NatalieMarrCounseling.com⁠⁠⁠),⁠ and all affiliate social media entities is educational and coaching based ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic services of any kind on these mediums.

If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org⁠/⁠⁠⁠⁠ or CALL 988

Crisis Text Line: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.crisistextline.org/ or⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Text HOME to 741741

Dr. Natalie Podcast, Midlife Women

Episode 115: Navigating Midlife – Dr. Natalie’s Personal Journey

In this podcast episode, Dr. Natalie shares her personal journey through midlife, discussing the challenges she faced with hormonal changes, medical care, and the importance of self-care. She emphasizes the need for women to advocate for their health, explore alternative medicine, and find supportive communities. Dr. Natalie also touches on the role of nutrition and exercise in managing midlife changes and encourages listeners to engage in conversations about women’s health.


Key Takeaways:
– Dr. Natalie discusses her absence from the podcast and the importance of self-care.
– She reflects on the hormonal changes of midlife and their impact on health.
– The medical field often overlooks women’s health issues, especially in midlife.
– Dr. Natalie shares her frustrating experiences with traditional medical care.
– She emphasizes the importance of finding healthcare providers who listen and understand.
– Alternative medicine provided her with a sense of being heard and supported.
– Nutrition and exercise play crucial roles in managing midlife health.
– Dr. Natalie encourages women to advocate for their health and seek support.
– She acknowledges the emotional toll of midlife changes and the need for community.
– The podcast aims to create a roadmap for women navigating midlife challenges.

Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Personal Update
09:37 The Search for Effective Treatment
16:20 Reflections on Health and Future Plans
17:44 Season 2 Legal Disclaimer.MP4

https://youtu.be/9v8yWLjW8Vw?si=VMtGDY4TgZKE2ILT

Dr. Natalie Podcast, Selfish is the New Selfless

Episode 62 – You’ve Got to Hear This if You’re a Woman in Midlife!

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How Midlife Looks Different For Women

 

In this episode of Midlife Crisis to a Centered Life Thriving, Dr. Natalie helps us debunk the mystery of midlife crisis. She explains that this is a natural part of the transition into the second stage of life and the term crisis is the best description for the insurmountable amount of changes we are going through at this stage in life. She emphasizes that midlife crisis is not a character flaw, and urges us to stop judging ourselves so harshly for struggling at this stage of our lives.

Dr. Natalie seeks to teach us in this episode how midlife crisis for women looks different than our preconceived notions. As she explains the biological and hormonal shifts that occur during this time and how they can impact our physical and mental well-being, she also explores the different responses and behaviors that can arise. She helps us to understand what brings about such changes as mood swings, anxiety, and avoidance. Dr. Natalie encourages listeners to anchor back into a state of safety and security and offers strategies for managing and thriving during this phase of life.

Takeaways:
  • Midlife crisis looks different for women.
  • Midlife crisis is a natural part of the transition into the second stage of life and should not be seen as a character flaw.
  • Biological and hormonal shifts occur for women during midlife crisis, impacting physical and mental well-being.
  • Responses to midlife crisis can include mood swings, anxiety, avoidance, and feeling stuck.
  • Anchoring back into a state of safety and security is important for managing and thriving during midlife crisis.
  • Seeking therapy or medical help can be beneficial for navigating significant challenges of midlife crisis.


Do any of these sound like you?

    • Feel a sense of lack, despite success in life or having done everything “right”
    • Struggle to articulate how you feel to others
    • Experience guilt about how you’re feeling
    • Have lost your way
    • Are struggling to overcome turmoil in your life
    • Have become resigned to accepting a life you don’t love

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Disclaimer

The content in this podcast and video is not a replacement for therapy and is not clinical, medical, or mental health treatment. Dr. Natalie Marr is a Licensed Psychologist in the state of Minnesota. Her work with LearnToLoveYourStory.com and all affiliate social media entities is educational and coaching based ONLY. She IS NOT offering therapeutic services of any kind on these mediums.

If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis or having thoughts of suicide, please use the following crisis resources (this is not an exhaustive list of available resources):

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

CALL 988

Crisis Text Line: https://www.crisistextline.org/

Text HOME to 741741